I am getting divorced. It is about a month from being finalized, and it was an amicable split. A few weeks after separating, I ran into a girl I have known, but not very well, for about five years. She used to waitress me and my exes table at a restaurant.
I am getting divorced. It is about a month from being finalized, and it was an amicable split.
A few weeks after separating, I ran into a girl I have known, but not very well, for about five years. She used to waitress me and my ex’s table at a restaurant. Well, I asked her out and we really hit it off quick. She said she was always attracted to me, just never acted on it because I was married. We basically fell for each other. She told me she couldn’t wait to be together and that she loved me.
Now it seems as though she is putting the brakes on. We have talked about it, and she said that she had a really bad break up and is afraid of getting hurt again. She has to move out of where she is currently staying and has decided not to move in with me, although she says she still loves me. She has a very hectic life and she would be moving farther away, which would make it very difficult to spend time together. I told her in certain terms how I feel about it, but don’t want to pressure her into anything she may not want to do. I think she is being truthful with me, but I have grown so accustom to spending a lot of time together that the idea of not being able to see her as much just isn’t very appealing.
We have been together for around five months and I think this would be the next natural step. There is a lot of passion in the bedroom, we can hardly keep our hands off each other, but she says she really wants to be sure so as not to get hurt. I know I would never do anything to hurt her, and really just want to love and take care of her. Any advice would be appreciated.
-DIVORCED DUDE
Dear Divorced Dude,
This girl sounds like she’s doing the most sane thing. If you guys are sooooo in love, what’s the urgency? You being accustomed to spending every minute together is understandable, but also selfish. You’ll become accustomed to spending time alone soon enough.
Change sucks, there’s an adjustment period, but deal with it. You were grown enough to get married and go through that “whole death do us part” shit, so maybe take a slow approach into consideration. Plus, if you’re aching for her super hard, most likely it’s not about her at all, but your need to fill a void with “love” and “passion” and all those other Valentine-y words the world has tricked us into thinking is “true love” but is actually addiction and bullshit and ego and nothing real that lasts forever anyway.
Bitterly,
-ARF
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Sure beats shit in a toilet.
Waitress showing interest in you, huh?
Tip slut. She probably sensed you were vulnerable, cleaned you out to get her rent paid and now it’s off with that dago cook from the afternoon shift. Waitresses are worse than pole dancers and strippers.
i shat a capital “S” the other day, but i chose not to encourage that type of posting.
@Zippy
hahahaha, real talk
Hah! Excellent advice.
Ooooh, what a treat. She gets to be your rebound gal before you’ve even put ink to the divorce papers. No wonder she’s looking at you a bit askance. You’re a mama’s boy who needs to jump from relationship to relationship because you’re afraid to be without someone who can be your mama. Maybe she’ll think you’re a bit more normal and real if you attempt to enjoy your new found freedom by going out there and actually sampling a few of the possibilities instead of wanting to suckle upon and shack up with the first willing breast to say “hello.” Be a man. Take some time and build yourself a “little black book.” Make the next woman your committed to feel like she’s special, that she’s the one who made a philandering lone wolf finally take the plunge and settle the fuck down. Pussy ass white boy. Grow a pair!
^too long
You keep her interested by not treating her like she’s your fucking wife again. Stop hanging out with her all the fucking time and give both of yourselves time to experience shit without each other. Then you’ll have shit to talk about. Jesus, it’s not that hard.
@homeless.
how did you know it was a CAPITAL “S”?
One word my friend : Money.
Women are like deer in headlights when it comes to money.
Money to women is the equivalent of a nice rack to men it totally distracts them from the tons of bad shit about you.
The reason your wife divorced you is because you were too poor.
Just make more money and show it subtly, not like the Turks do with their hairy chests gold chains and mercedes. Women don’t like to acknowledge that they love money because it makes them feel shallow, but they do.
5 months sounds really soon. most of my relationships last at least 9 months and there have been many.
This dude is just ASKING to get dumped… Let that bitch breathe niagah!
how do i keep her interested in us?
kill yourself.
Does anyone here agree with Salad?
@is in da hellse
there’s some truth in it…but i think it has less to do with women being golddiggers than the fact that they are thinking about the children.
you forgot codependent!
as an addendum, you should have just linked to this: http://streetbonersandtvcarnage.com/blog/10-ways-to-get-over-her/
Salad sounds like a primadonna douchedag and poor Zippy is bitter cause he once has his feeble heart shat on by a hot waitress who wasnt interested. Either way they are both fucking transparent.
Real world, Janie. Now earn you’re 15% and bring me some more rolls and coffee.
ummm yeah breh, what lesley said
Ugh, faggot. Drop her and find more pussy.
She’s a waitress. Move on.
Next question.
there was nothing lower case about that shit.
wow, that was the most concise answer ive seen on an “ask barf”. rings true though