I have social anxiety disorder and although I realize it’s totally silly and that I should just man up it’s seriously affecting my sex game.
I have social anxiety disorder and although I realize it’s totally silly and that I should just man up it’s seriously affecting my sex game. The weird shy guy thing worked wonders in high school and even a bit early on in college. But in the last year the only time I’ve bonked was when I caved in to my psychopathic ex-girlfriend whom I broke up with because I discovered she was literally a prostitute (literally – sex for shopping money). And it’s as if I’m being totally inactive socially: I go out to shows and parties and I make new friends and dance and whatnot. But I just can’t bring myself to approach girls I’m interested in for fear of creepotude. I can be witty and charming with women when I know sex isn’t an option, but when it is I become Cameron from Ferris Bueller’s. So yah, how do I become a charismatic and wellmeaning dood around pretty girls without embracing any creeperness?
(actually my name)
P.S./BTW: Though I’ve never read it, I bought your book for my sister and she gave it to my mom. They both love it.
I have social anxiety too, although I think for each person it’s different. I know a lot of people with this problem and some of them go on medication and LOVE it. Have you ever considered that? If that’s something you don’t feel, there are other options. One is drinking. Do you drink? The truth is that 99% of people have social anxiety and are afraid to talk to girls so they drink when they go out and that’s that. Sure, sometimes you’ll be creepy, but that just comes with the territory when you’re a dude. Fuck it, be creepy sometimes. I can think of worse things. My ex-boyfriend stared me down in a bar in a totally creepy way, so creepy in fact that in kind of turned me on. Then we went out for 2 years. Girls want to get laid and they want boyfriends, so the odds are in your favor. The universe is trying to work with you Jack, not against you. That’s why God invented whisky. And another thing, charismatic dudes are overrated. I know tons of girls who prefer Cameron to Ferris Bueller, me being one of them. I think it’s annoying when a dude talks non-stop and tries hard to get my attention. His cockiness is just a thinly-veiled veil for his insecurities and big ego that it just makes me wanna take a nap. I prefer the quiet, smart, and mysterious man. It sounds like you’re more of that variety so my question to you is… what do you look like?
Just kidding! Eat, drink, take pills, wash behind your ears, and be merry.
And good luck too.