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A few weeks ago I met a boy at a party, and I was really drunk and told him that I liked him EVEN THOUGH I have a boyfriend.
(Photo courtesy of Titty City)
A few weeks ago I met a boy at a party, and I was really drunk and told him that I liked him EVEN THOUGH I have a boyfriend. I felt bad the next day and that particular non-boyfriend boy went back home to a city in which I do not live. Then, last weekend, I went to a crazy music festival with said boy and not my boyfriend and tried some drugs, and had a great time and ended up jerking off his roommate whom we shared a tent with.
I feel bad about cheating on my boyfriend, but I had been feeling uneasy about our relationship for a while now. He’s a really sweet dude and treats me well, but I don’t feel any passion between us, and quite frankly I’m bored. He’s a bit older and just wants to get high and drink beers and watch TV. I on the other hand, want to go make new friends and explore and make memories and become the person I’m going to be. I feel like we went to fast and skipped the so-called “honeymoon” phase. We’re basically just an old married couple. The sex isn’t even that good anymore.
My problem is, should I stick with him and see if passion develops after being together for four months, or should I get out now? I really do like him, but I shouldn’t have to put in so much work so early on. Or have I ruined everything by cheating on him? Thanks
-A BORED WHORE
Dear Bored Whore,
I’m mostly confused about the hand job. You jerked off the roommate of the boy you like? It sounds to me like it’s not about any one boy in particular but rather any guy who happens NOT to be your boyfriend. So yes, break up with him.
Why are people always trying to “make things work” when they’re unhappy and cheating? What’s the worst thing that can happen if you break up with him? He’s mad at you? So what? He’ll get over it. You’ll be sad? Oh well. Be sad. It will pass. Sounds like you’ll be happier without the guilt. Then you’ll be free to give handjobs to whomever and have the fun adventures that you seem to be seeking. Feeling like you’re in an “old married couple” relationship is only worth it if you’re actually an old married couple. It’s really not such a bad thing, but if it feels bad or wrong or boring right now, you have a choice and don’t forget that.
Part of living a wild and crazy life full of adventures is battling through the fear of doing stuff you don’t always want to do. It means being able to make choices that will sometimes have negative results. Making decisions and trusting our instincts are the hardest yet boldest actions we take. Sometimes the right decision feels like it’s wrong or bad because we’re hurting someone else. But we have to hurt other people sometimes in order to save ourselves. If you don’t save yourself first, you can’t save anyone at all. You can explore and make new memories anywhere, whether you’re at a crazy music festival or just at the diner. You’ll become the person you want to be not by cheating, lying or giving spontaneous handjobs, but rather being true to yourself and being honest with what you want. And then actually getting off your ass and doing it.
That’s the most extreme living in the world.
xx
-LESLEY ARFIN
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jump over the homo rainbow already barf! sears’ you post everything with a naked women, its degrading! sheesh just f gaggling.
no one would read this shit if we weren’t enticed by a naked woman in the subject…
Learn to proofread Barf. And then actually getting of your ass and doing it. It’s getting off your ass. Such low quality work….tsk..tsk.
She shouldn’t break up with her boyfriend. She needs one to cheat on, otherwise she can’t get off.
To “Anonymous”: So true. Would anyone EVER click on these Ask Barfs without the Titty City pix? They might as well put similar pix in all the so/so columns.
PS, I’ve thought about boning Barf many times. Thats MY ask barf. “What would a sexy night with Barf be like?” I’d prefer a picture response vs. a written description. Barf?
i stopped after the first sentence of the second paragraph. man up and break up with him instead of nursing “uneasy feelings” and being a big whore on the side. it’s cool if you want to hang out and do drugs and jerk off random dudes just don’t be an asshole and a cheater as well. the time to get all of that out of your system is when you’re young so be single and go balls to the wall if you wanna. you seem kind of reckless and self-disrespectful…just make sure you don’t end up like alone and forty with like saggy tits and 10 STD’s.
Chicks still give tug jobs beyond highschool????
not a great butt pic.
you would be a good therapist
It makes perfect sense to me. She cranked the guy’s friend because the guy was into just watching. Sounds perfectly normal, doesn’t it? I mean don’t alot of guys do that? Uh, right???? Somebody PLEASE say yes!!
I know you went to rehab, Barf, and it sounds like you’ve spent a couple hours hanging out in AA with all the “bumper sticker” slogans you pushed on this whore.
Extreme handjobs.
If it was like a “whoops, I got really really drunk and kinda fucked up and I don’t mean this and I am really truly sorry” tearful kind of situation I can see forgiveness/sticking with a relationship, but just fucking break up with him. Don’t tell him you cheated on him though, that’s just rubbing salt in the wound.
@Jones: “Extreme Handjobs” — now that’s a fucking band name.
this chick is horrible and entitled what up http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNRNCk3YwqE
wish i was getting strange girls to tug me up.
Was gonna read this,saw how long it was, then shot right over to titty city. I think I made the right decision.
Handjobs? Thats not cheating you guys!
” ‘a handjobs a mans job, yo jobs a blowjob’, that porn snob, that corncob with a
doorknob is a born slob”
Married couple and wack sex after four months. FOUR. MONTHS. That answered your own question.
this entire response should have been one sentence long.
“yes break up with him, but a hand job? what are you 13?”
that girl kind of looks like the mom from weeds
Dear Lesley and Bored Whore,
It’s probably true that when you are older things become more tedious, it could even be viewed as a sign of maturity, that the relationship is working. If you are bored than you should leave your boyfriend. However, consider that while you were jerking off some dude after a show your boyfriend was probably sitting around drinking and smoking and waiting to see you. Did you ever consider voicing your concerns to him? “Hey, all you do is smoke and drink and I want to go out and live life to the fullest (whatever that means).”
Of course it may not work, and the original decision to break up with him could turn out to be right one. But this would have at least given him some indication, and made you feel less bad about the whole thing.
There is also some conflict here between living a crazy life full of adventure, and developing into the person you feel you should become (the person you are going to be) so get used to it. After a while you’ll become more reductive in your thinking.
i literally cant believe ppl write more than 2 sentences in the comments
Read the Bible.
Some of these commenters are really rude. It must take real balls to hate on lesley with the rehab comment, but at least shes being public about opinions and story rather than being an internet troll hiding behind annon posts. Guess this website attracts a lot of douchy characters. I love ask barf and maybe consider turning it into your own website lesley.
DUECES