I’m a 21-year-old girl living in Silver Lake, L.A., and working as a photographer for a pretty cool boutique (I do lookbooks, catalogs, etc.). I have two female and two male models who I work with regularly.
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I’m a 21-year-old girl living in Silver Lake, L.A., and working as a photographer for a pretty cool boutique (I do lookbooks, catalogs, etc.). I have two female and two male models who I work with regularly.
I don’t know if it’s the cliche “photographer/model” chemistry lovefest or what, and I have never had any relations with girls before, but I feel like I have completely fallen in love with one of the girls. She’s hilarious, sexy, super creative, and of course, fuckin’ gorgeous.
We have a ton in common, we hang out after work and almost every weekend, have long conversations on the phone, etc., but I feel like it’s more than just a “best friend” thing. We’ve even drunkenly kissed at a party. I used to do some modeling (how I found this job) so I’d say we’re both pretty hot, and we just each broke up with our respective boyfriends pretty recently.
So should I try and do anything about it? I’d rather err on the side of not ruining a really awesome friendship and work partnership, but we have a crazy connection that’s hard to ignore.
Good luck with your move to L.A., you’ll love it here. 
Sincerely,
-A LITTLE CONFUSED BUT MOSTLY LOVING LIFE
Dear Confused,
DOYE BOMB! Yes, you should hook up with your model. That’s what photographers do. We’ve all seen Gia (wait, that happens in that movie, right?).
Anyway, this is what great art is about: being irresponsible, possibly ruining “awesome friendships,” crossing inappropriate boundaries, and other fun stuff like that. That’s what we do. It seems like delicious sexual tension. In fact, if you don’t stop reading this right now and go to her house and fuck her, we’re in a fight. The beef will be eternal. GO. RIGHT. NOW.
xx
-LESLEY ARFIN
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If I were you I would NOT rush to her house just yet. I would give it a little bit more time and let more tension build up. You don’t want to seem needy or weird, so instead hang out with her more and go drinking together and see if you can re-create that make-out situation again. Then add more to it the second time, like second or third base (yeah I know that terminology is goofy, so what). Then you can talk about your crush after you have already crossed that physical threshold.
And if you can’t get to that physical threshold b/c you are not getting that vibe from her then I would shake this crush off for the time being. You really don’t want to weird out a good, fun friendship so I say don’t come on too strong unless you know for sure…..which obviously you don’t yet.
I’m with Name, but Barf’s sentiments are totally appreciated.
“this is what great art is about” . . .”That’s what we do”
the thing about the big balls dinner table is that you occasionally choke on your own big balls.
I think there was a typo or something. She meant the male model. LOL.
tough call as a pro photographer you are constantly flashing the “do not hit on the model” sign in your head.
Um? How can a girl F another girl?
Tongue lapping or fingering is as far as I’m gonna let ya go without a dude involved.
yeah go fuck her like nao!
Pictures or it didn’t happen.
i havnt been laid for 3 months. this is really a half assed problem.
You should fuck her with a double-headed dildo.
why must there be porno to accompany Ask Barf each time, is this the only way that Lesley’s voice can have any authority. It’s fucked up.
That story is bullshit.
Send Penthouse forum at least a $10 royalty for using their plotline.
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“this is what great art is about” . . .”That’s what we do”
the thing about the big balls dinner table is that you occasionally choke on your own big balls.
dear guy , i think i love you .
thanks
fik
“…That’s what we do”
hahahaha making shitty t-shirts is ‘great art?’
this might be one of my favorite ask barfs.
@miso: Yeah, those pics are really fucked up. Totally authority, I’m sick of these tits!
SCISSOR ME TIMBERS MATEY!
pics nao fgt
this is hot shit
i love you Barfin Arfin. One request. Could you please request a photo when people submit questions? Otherwise its just torture
please stop with this shit.
What is it with all these bicurious girls in Ask Barf? It seems disproportionate compared to straight people and gay guys.